You leave your house in a good mood. On your way to work you encounter a rude person in traffic, once you get to the office your co-worker grumbles at you about deadlines, and then you receive an unhappy email from a customer. Before you know it, you’re feeling stressed out!Read More
Can you recall someone saying, “Just be positive and everything will be fine”?
Did you instantly feel positive? Probably not.Read More
Happy July! I hope everyone is enjoying the summer and taking some time off to rest and recharge your batteries.
I am starting a series on stress. That probably seems like a funny topic to pick for the summer, as that is usually when you are able to relax a little…and that is exactly why I am starting this now.Read More
Managers tend to share one big concern and frustration; the inability of a team to accomplish the results that they set out to achieve. In Patrick Lencioni’s book, Overcoming the Five Dysfunctions of a Team, he identifies four distractions that must be managed in order to keep a team focused on achieving the collective results.Read More
Last year, my husband and I decided to extend our patio. The contractor told us it was a three day job and to quote them, “a very simple project”. It actually took 3 months and a lot of stressful days and nights.Read More
Conflict issues on a team are inevitable, but choosing to ignore conflict areas leads to the next dysfunction in the Five Dysfunctions of a Team - A Lack of Commitment.Read More
Conflict seems to be more and more a part of our daily lives.
From listening to the news, to watching TV dramas, or viewing social media channels we are exposed to conflict situations constantly and consistently. It is no wonder that problems with getting along with others seems to be a reoccurring theme. The most requested workshop I receive is on the subject of conflict resolution.Read More
In the last email, I shared a scenario about a feeling of distrust that had arisen between a manager and her team member. I mentioned the key to resolving this situation would reside in each person’s willingness to be more vulnerable in communication with one another.Read More
The manager looked dejected and hopeless. From her point of view, she had tried repeatedly to help the person on her team be successful in her role. Yet, here was another email threatening to go to HR if she were not given more support and help from the manager.Read More
The ballroom was full of energy and excitement! Music filled the air, and people dressed in their best gowns and suits, filled the dance floor. The last dance ended, and the announcer called our heat; it was time to report to the floor.
We stood in place, facing one another as the Waltz began; I moved into the dance frame and counted aloud, “1, 2, 3, 1, 2, 3”.
I expected my student to begin his steps on the next phrase of the music as we had practiced. Instead, we stood still.Read More
As I looked out the window of the coffee shop, I observed a young child, maybe 2 or 3, crying and upset. She had lost sight of her parent and was scared. She stayed close to the front door.
Another adult witnessing her distress tried to get her to turn around to see that her parent was just around the corner. She would not move or take any action. She remained fixed and continued to cry and cling to the door.
As I watched this scene, it made me think about how adults can also get stuck in fixed patterns of waiting and complaining…maybe even crying like the child, because we don’t want to take an action that feels so scary and uncomfortable.Read More
Last weekend, while channel surfing, I came upon a scene in a movie where a group of people were stranded in the jungle. Their boat had crashed, and a giant snake was killing members of the group.
As panic took over, everyone began pointing the finger and blaming others for how they had arrived in their current predicament; all of which was serving no value in solving their problem. It was however, successfully creating more crisis and panic.
Finally, some sanity returns to the group as one member says, "Deal with it!", and reminds the group that arguing about what got them in the situation is not going to get them out.Read More
Learning to accept parts of yourself that you don’t like can be difficult. The challenge that comes with increased self-awareness is that you come face to face with your shadow side; you know, the little devil that sits on your shoulder and whispers negative thoughts into your brain.
The thing to remember about that little devil is that he wants to be loved and accepted.Read More
Tuesday started out like a Monday. I had to get up at 5:00 that morning. I was tired and as I was organizing my things, my coffee cup fell into my computer bag…soaking everything; notepads, pens, papers, and the computer. The door and carpet got a good dose too!
Irritated and highly annoyed, I started the process of cleaning everything up. As I took out each item and wiped it down, I was aware of two conversations running in my mind.Read More
Self-awareness is crucial if you want to change something about yourself but if you’re not aware of what needs to be changed, how can you discover it?
We’ve all had that friend or family member who continuously complains about something that a co-worker or friend does and you think, “You do exactly the same thing”.
You might even wonder how that person can’t perceive it when it seems so glaringly obvious to you!Read More
Do you ever have that gnawing feeling that something is unsettled in your life but you’re just not sure how to address it?
Perhaps you tell yourself you just need to get back to the normal Fall schedule, and the feeling will go away.
The feeling may go away or lessen for a period of time, but somehow, it always seems to return.
My sister’s oldest son leaves for college this month; it is exciting, stressful, and a little sad for everyone in the family. Fortunately, she and the family are handling this transition quite well but having talked to many clients, friends, and family, I am aware this transition can be highly stressful, and even quite difficult, for some.Read More
First, thank you to all the attendees of my free webinar, Shift Your Outlook! How to Use Inspiration Cards to Develop Stronger Emotional Resiliency in the Face of Challenges. I also want to say a special thank you to Lisa, my volunteer, for sharing her challenge story.
If you were on the webinar, you will recall the card Lisa drew was, ‘Everything is Okay’. The central message of the card: Step forward in confidence. Release doubt and know you are safe on the journey.Read More
Hope you enjoyed the series on building greater emotional resilience!
We are full on into summer which brings fun, food, heat, and new adventures, but it can also lead to short tempers and family frustrations. I thought sending along a list of 10 strengths would be a good reminder of how to stay strong when challenges arise.
Negative feelings have a way of sneaking up on us, when we least expect them. When that happens, we get wrapped up and stuck in a negative way of thinking. The first step is to recognize the negative pattern, the second step is to find a way to deal with negative thoughts and feelings in a constructive way.
“Smile, everything is wonderful. We are all just happy, happy people!”Read More